(Note from Thomas Lavalle: I am extremely honored to publish a guest post by Mistress Sandra, who is well known to regular readers of Mistress Kathy’s Femdom 101 blog, for her passionate advocacy of, and informative comments on femdom marriages. Here she offers insights on my previous posting, ‘Female Led Families: Submissive Dads & Dominant Daughters, which, with her permission, I am publishing here as a separate posting. I am hopeful that Mistress Sandra will continue to grace these pages on a regular basis.)
This subject is extremely controversial, and I think we can all see why. But for those that truly believe in the positive aspects of female rule, a daughter coming of age and becoming a female authority to any male in the home, including her father, should be very natural.
I do think that in a home where this is a possibility, the ultimate female authority and head of the house, the wife and mother, should consider how far this should go. Her comfort with whatever happens should be the most important consideration when the time comes.
A woman who believes in Female-Led homes should pass these beliefs on to her daughter, and teach her how to be a proper and positive female authority as she prepares for a Female-Led home of her own.
The father’s behavior should be an example to his daughter of how a well-trained, obedient and devoted male should act. As young teens, girls should see their father being very obedient and respectful of their mothers. The father should do the housework, yard work and serve his wife in other ways as she wishes. He should also serve his daughter in ways that will benefit her without being obvious about his beliefs in the value of Female-Led homes. A man must balance between being a father while also being a respectful servant to his daughter.
Later, as a girl get older, around her late teens, she may be ready to start leading. And at this stage the fathers should be more open about taking orders from their daughters and waiting on them as the opportunities arise. By the time a girl turns 21, she is a woman and deserving of being shown the same respect and obedience as her mother. It would not be out of line if a mother decided that her daughter should be addressed with a “Yes, Ma’am” and “No, Ma’am” by her father. She should be in a position of authority to approve or deny any request by her father, and also be in full authority to assign him chores and discipline him as she sees fit. For her position of authority, if it is to be valid, must include the authority to discipline any male in her service.
A young woman fortunate enough to have her mother as a mentor, learning from her how a confident woman trains a submissive male and seeing her father set the example for proper male behavior in a Female-Led home, is one of the best and most positive beginnings I can think of for her own Femdom marriage.