Tuesday, October 4, 2016

BEAUTY AND POWER

The classic paradigm paints femininity as soft and yielding.

The Female Supremacist paradigm offers a complete role reversal—the imperious woman who exercises complete dominion over her surrendered male.

This paradigm links beauty and power in a sustaining synergy that can last a lifetime. A few specifics below:

From Litia’s Journal:

“Now, I’m in My 50’s and gravity is winning more and more every day.... But in the eyes and mind of my husband, I am FAR, FAR, Superior to this beautiful young lady (see photo inset), because to him, I am his Goddess and I am the only one who knows exactly how and when he NEEDS to be punished and disciplined. I am his Queen, I am beautiful in his mind and eyes and he shows it to me EVERY Minute of EVERY day. (Litia’sJournal) “

From Vivian’s Domain:

“A key component of every man’s sexuality is awe. When he sees a beautiful woman’s face or an attractive figure, he is drawn almost against his will. He is awestruck and overcome by that power. Have you ever noticed how men behave toward a beautiful woman? They fall all over themselves to please her in some way. Even when there is no way such behavior will result in a sexual experience, men become the willing servants of beauty.

“We see our husbands looking at other women as if they were goddesses and looking at us as if we were mere functionaries, striving to be helpful to women they hardly know and ignoring the needs of the woman who dedicates herself to him and his family. Sometimes we become angry and resentful of our husbands, knowing that it is simply not right that he looks at other women with the passion that rightfully belongs to us. Sometimes we get down on ourselves, feeling unattractive and taken for granted and cheated out of his affection.

“Although there are some exceptions (women who are so beautiful and remain so beautiful that they can inspire their husbands with that beauty even after years of marriage), for most women, even attractive ones, it is not possible after years of cohabitation and child-bearing to become beautiful enough to inspire the kind of awe that will motivate her husband. So, what can a woman do?

“She can understand this: Not only is there power in beauty, there is beauty in power! The ‘take my breath away’ kind of awe that a man feels when he sees a stunningly beautiful woman is similar to the feelings he had as a young adolescent toward women of power in his life—teachers, neighborhood moms, and strict women in general.

“In order to make your husband a better man and a better spouse, you need to make him eager to win your approval and fearful of earning your disapproval. You must exert the kind of power that grabs his attention, makes you beautiful to him and takes his breath away.”
(“Beauty and Power,” Vivian’s Domain)

1 comment:

  1. As a submissive man, I can attest to the fact that I feel an instinctive awe and need to serve and obey the women I encounter, and not necessarily just the most beautiful ones. I do feel guilty when I temporarily fall under the spell of a stranger who might be walking by, or a woman I have to deal with in some professional or public capacity. But I'm lucky in that my wife understands the phrase that Thomas quoted form Vivian's Domain: Not only is there power in beauty, there's beauty in power!" My wife is much younger than I am (she's a millennial), and she has no ambivalence when it comes to making sure my true devotion remains hers.

    I don't want to make excuses for men like myself, but I just want to reiterate that an instinctive awe toward the physical attributes of women is not uncommon. A quick story. My dad, who has always been submissive to my mom, was in the hospital not long ago for some minor knee surgery. He had an adverse reaction to the anesthetic, and was a bit delirious for awhile after he woke up. He began complimenting every nurse that walked by, making remarks about their legs or breasts or whatever, and even reached out to grab one of them. The nurses just laughed and said this kind of thing happened sometimes with drug reactions. Now, my mom is still beautiful, but these nurses were young and toned and I could tell she felt a little insulted even though it wasn't really my dad's fault. Anyway, she recorded some of these reactions with her phone and showed them to him after he fully recovered. He was so sorry and embarrassed. He begged and begged my mom for forgiveness, and pampered and catered to her, and gave her massages, etc. The funny thing was that mom didn't even have to scold or punish him. She had him so well trained after all these years that his love, his adoration, and his conscience did all the work.

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