Hello! For the benefit of new blog readers, I’m Susan—Lady Susan to males. Nancy is my daughter and dennis my son-in-law. Yes, they are the same Nancy and dennis who, several years back, contributed some lively posts to Mark Remond’s popular Wife Worshipping blog). We live in a women-in-charge household with dennis taking on a housekeeping role in addition to having a full-time job. All of us are familiar with Kaitlin, the subject of this post, and we are all supportive, and strict followers, of a female-supremacist agenda.
Kaitlin, again by way of introduction to recent blog readers, is a graduate student at a small liberal arts college working on her Ph.D in Women’s Studies. She is an ardent Feminist driven to do her best to undo our patriarchal society and to put a Matriarchal system in its place. Much of the work we all do to advance this agenda takes place at a local women’s center.
Kaitlin’s current research is exploring the reversal of gender roles in what she (and we!) hope is an indication that we are fast arriving at a post-patriarchal society. Through a series of workshops, interviews, and other research, she is uncovering a new social order in which lesser-educated, yet pliable males take on domestic duties, abandon traditional roles and activities, and are subservient to stronger, dominating women.
Women, advanced degrees in hand, have displaced males in the workplace and taken on high-paying professional positions including many in STEM fields. Traditional roles have been reversed! More and more women are heads ofhousehold while men are increasingly taking on housekeeping/maid roles. She is the executive and he the housekeeper sworn to absolute deference to his wife, even to the point of fully accepting her seeing other men and in many cases doing so quite openly.
While Kaitlin’s work shows significant progress towards a woman-in-charge society, it is nothing new. In interviewing women who were the housewives of the ‘60s through the ‘80s, an age of assumed male superiority, Kaitlin found just the opposite. Women of this era controlled the family finances, set the social agenda, and generally presided over the household. Indeed, Kaitlin found that a great many executive men from this era came home, obediently tied on an apron, and took on the domestic tasks assigned him by their wives. Men washed, ironed, cooked, cleaned, vacuumed, and generally looked after the women when they were given a directive or a request, or when their instinct and training told them it was time to look in on their wives and be of service to them and any women friends who happened to be visiting.
In my case, my husband worked as a manager at a large company. He made a lot of money and had a lot of authority at work, but when he came home the paycheck was in my hand, to do with whatever I pleased, and his authority—well, it was nowhere to be seen! I was the boss at home, and he knew it. He learned to love putting on his apron and getting on with housekeeping at the end of the day. He looked forward to obeying orders as opposed to giving them. And he loved the domestic routine I had for him. Every day, seven days a week, he had housekeeping to do, and he loved it.
Kaitlin’s first finding: Men want to please women but don’t know how. So, provide them a domestic routine and regularly alter that routine so that soon they’re doing all the housework. It’s an opportunity for him and you!
Finally, I’m always asked, did I have boyfriends? Yes, I did!