Tuesday, August 8, 2017


Hello! For the benefit of new blog readers, I’m Susan—Lady Susan to males. Nancy is my daughter and dennis my son-in-law. Yes, they are the same Nancy and dennis who, several years back, contributed some lively posts to Mark Remond’s popular Wife Worshipping blog). We live in a women-in-charge household with dennis taking on a housekeeping role in addition to having a full-time job. All of us are familiar with Kaitlin, the subject of this post, and we are all supportive, and strict followers, of a female-supremacist agenda.

Kaitlin, again by way of introduction to recent blog readers, is a graduate student at a small liberal arts college working on her Ph.D in Women’s Studies. She is an ardent Feminist driven to do her best to undo our patriarchal society and to put a Matriarchal system in its place. Much of the work we all do to advance this agenda takes place at a local women’s center.

Kaitlin’s current research is exploring the reversal of gender roles in what she (and we!) hope is an indication that we are fast arriving at a post-patriarchal society. Through a series of workshops, interviews, and other research, she is uncovering a new social order in which lesser-educated, yet pliable males take on domestic duties, abandon traditional roles and activities, and are subservient to stronger, dominating women.

Women, advanced degrees in hand, have displaced males in the workplace and taken on high-paying professional positions including many in STEM fields. Traditional roles have been reversed! More and more women are heads of
household while men are increasingly taking on housekeeping/maid roles. She is the executive and he the housekeeper sworn to absolute deference to his wife, even to the point of fully accepting her seeing other men and in many cases doing so quite openly.

While Kaitlin’s work shows significant progress towards a woman-in-charge society, it is nothing new. In interviewing women who were the housewives of the ‘60s through the ‘80s, an age of assumed male superiority, Kaitlin found just the opposite. Women of this era controlled the family finances, set the social agenda, and generally presided over the household. Indeed, Kaitlin found that a great many executive men from this era came home, obediently tied on an apron, and took on the domestic tasks assigned him by their wives. Men washed, ironed, cooked, cleaned, vacuumed, and generally looked after the women when they were given a directive or a request, or when their instinct and training told them it was time to look in on their wives and be of service to them and any women friends who happened to be visiting.

In my case, my husband worked as a manager at a large company. He made a lot of money and had a lot of authority at work, but when he came home the paycheck was in my hand, to do with whatever I pleased, and his authority—well, it was nowhere to be seen! I was the boss at home, and he knew it. He learned to love putting on his apron and getting on with housekeeping at the end of the day. He looked forward to obeying orders as opposed to giving them. And he loved the domestic routine I had for him. Every day, seven days a week, he had housekeeping to do, and he loved it.

Kaitlin’s first finding: Men want to please women but don’t know how. So, provide them a domestic routine and regularly alter that routine so that soon they’re doing all the housework. It’s an opportunity for him and you!

Finally, I’m always asked, did I have boyfriends? Yes, I did!


  1. does anyone have any advice on how to find women's centers or organizations that can help teach Female led/matriarchial ways. as a male I would like to volunteer and help promote true female supremacists ideals. thank you, charlie

  2. So true, Lady Susan. As you implied, even in households where the woman or wife might not have felt comfortable claiming leadership, she was in charge nevertheless, and in the ways that counted most. And now, younger generations can be more open about it. It seems like a lot of young women and men as well are deeming female-led relationships or households as perfectly fine if not preferable, or at least nothing to make a big deal about. And the advances by women in society are obvious and will continue. Getting more women into the STEM fields is an important goal, something my wife cares about as well.

    And certainly, speaking from experience I can confirm how important a daily routine is for a man. I work from home as well as do most of the household chores, and barring the unexpected, I know exactly what I'm going to do from the time I wake up until the time I go to bed. My wife knows what I'm supposed to have accomplished by the end of the day, and she expects it to be done as a matter of course. That I'll complain or give her any unacceptable excuses isn't even on her radar, and it better not be on mine. I like that because I never have to second guess her and vice versa. Chaos is kept to a minimum, even with a toddler and a four month old in the house.

    To Charlie: Until or unless you can find local female-led, matriarchal groups, I think it's useful to support the available mainstream options such as women's abuse and pregnancy shelters, as well as the more radical feminist groups. Others might have much more info on this topic, but don't give up.

  3. Lady Susan Responds to Charlie’s comment (as Anonymous) above:
    My response to Charlie echoes what was said by Debra's son. Charlie should seek out opportunities to develop his Feminist credentials through reading, obeying his wife and other women within the family, taking on more work without being asked, and so on. As far as women’s centers go, the advice provided by Debra’s son is valid. Volunteer at one of the many women’s centers that are found in large cities and small towns. Go to rallies and marches, volunteer to do work around the center, obey the women there, and be damn proud of what you are doing. Want to get other males to join the movement? Talk openly about your support of women’s issues and follow through. Renounce patriarchy! Look for opportunities to openly comment about Matriarchy — dennis is good at this, he's always looking to do this. The other day dennis was watching a big screen TV in the waiting area of a local department store as I tried on clothes. In response to a news story, he commented, “We wouldn't have this kind of thing going on if women were in charge.” The ladies nearby agreed, and the men who didn’t were shouted down and sent away. That's empowerment! And when I was done trying on clothes, dennis carried my purchases at a respectful five feet behind and also put my pink purse over his arm. That’s submissive! That’s recognizing my authority and his position. Have you ever carried your wife's purse, charlie? If not, try it. Real men carry their lady's purse.
    —Lady Susan

  4. Brilliant post. Thank you so much. Would love to read more from Lady Susan..